American Bar Discovers Parents Are Being Alienated from their Children

During your divorce and after did you feel that your children were being alienated from your life? Brainwashed or even programmed?

Did anyone listen to what you had to say or were you told that you were just "sour grapes"

Well you should know that several years ago the "Family" Section of the American Bar did a study that concentrated on children being brainwashed, programmed and alienated from the target parent.

For instance the American Bar found that the parent who was actively brainwashing often rationalized what they were doing - and doing so "in the best interest of the child". Often claiming that they were the parent telling the truth.

The brainwashing parent used what ever means available to punish the target parent - often using the former couples children to deliver the message.

In over 20% of the cases studied religion was used to label the target parent as being "bad".

The Bar discovered that the programmers thinking was irrational.

The list goes on and as the targeted parent you could probably add to what was discovered by the American Bar. Yet the Bar has done little to shed light on the problems associated with one parent alienating another. This despite knowing how to detect and manage the problem in the court system.

One thing that you should do as the targeted parent is document every instance that alienation happens. Keep a journal, get a voice recorder and record what is happening to you. Otherwise it is your word against the brainwasher.
 
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Has Your Child Been Brainwashed or Programmed?

If you as a parent feel that your child(ren) is being programed or brainwashed by the other parent you are not alone.

In a study by the American Bar Association (ABA) Family Section some surprising facts came about.

• Accusations made by the brainwasher/ programmer (Alienator) were never followed up upon by Guardians ad litem (court vendors), lawyers or others who were party to the case. Many Guardians ad litem - for instance - claimed that it was almost impossible to detect.
• In the majority of cases - there was no history of abuse, drug or alcohol abuse or that the child(ren) lived in an environment that was poor and sickly. Yet when these types of accusations were made against the alienated parent they were rarely if ever followed up upon.
• If you as the target parent of the alienation had moved on - career, new house or marriage - it was shown that the brainwashing/ programming only intensified against that parent.

 How did the children fare?

• In interviews with the children - 80% - of them wanted the alienating process discovered.
• That - 70% - felt some kind of relief when the alienating process was discovered.
• It was discovered that many of the children would say what the alienator wanted - especially when that person was present. When in the presence of the other parent they would often display love and affection towards that parent.
• Simple but specialized interviewing techniques would uncover this alienating behavior in the alienating parent.

As a parent it is hard to bear hearing some of the things that our child(ren) may say to us as a result of the brainwashing/ programming they are going through. You have to understand that your child is probably struggling and may feel powerless to do anything for fear of punishment. Talk to your child and ask if there was anything that may have upset or cause concern during your visit with them. Do this before they are brought back. If there is address it with them and if it becomes a problem later on with the other parent you can let them know that you worked it out with your child(ren).

Family Courts have known for years about alienating parents and the brainwashing/ programming that happens. Yet they have either chosen to do nothing or are ill equipped to do anything about it.

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